Why do ejections hurt?
We are gregarious animals and by nature we want to be accepted by others. We equate acceptance with love and rejection with dislike. No one likes to be disliked. But the fact is that rejections are not because of us. A mother may not give a child junk food because she wants the child to be healthy as sugar may cause not only makes a person hyper, but over long time it puts pressure on pancreas which has to produce insulin to absorb sugar. Any type of artificial sweet causes the blood to spike up with energy and after a while and we feel elated. However, when all the sugar is gone, one feels depressed because of low energy.
As adults we have expectations from others and we want everyone to like us, our work, our opinions, and everything belonging to us. This is where the problem arises because it shows that our attitude becomes materialist. We think our inner void would fill with the outer satisfactory moment. Unfortunately, this can’t be far from truth.
According to Psychology Today, “In our hunter/gatherer past, being ostracized from our tribes was akin to a death sentence, as we were unlikely to survive for long alone.”
We no longer live in those days and the type of rejections have also changed. Sometimes a rejection can be a blessing in disguise.
What type of rejections affect you the most? How do you deal with a rejection?